Monument Method Institute
The Monument Method did not come from watching relationships at a safe distance. It came from 24 years inside one—through devotion, disconnection, addiction recovery, medical crisis, fear, repair, and the choice to keep building a refuge together.
Choose Your Coaching SessionFiercely Protect the Monument
Gaylen and Heather know the difference between loving each other and knowing what to do when both nervous systems are convinced the other person is the threat.
Gaylen has built more than two decades of sobriety. In 2018, after a terrifying decline and near-death heart failure, he received a heart transplant. Heather lived that season beside him. Their relationship was not a theory while life was on fire; it was the home they had to keep choosing.
Drawing on attachment principles associated with Dr. Sue Johnson’s work and their own lived experience, they developed a direct practice for the moment a couple begins to turn against itself: pause, honor the shared vow, turn toward, and reconnect before the damage compounds.
“The Monument is the life and bond we are building together. It has to matter more than either ego in the moment.”
That belief became the Monument Method—a shared language for couples who do not need more reasons to blame each other. They need a reliable way to recognize the cycle and protect the bond while it still counts.
You get two people who understand how differently partners can experience the same ten seconds—and who refuse to confuse shame with progress.
They will help you name what is actually happening without hiding behind jargon or letting the conversation dissolve into old evidence.
With Gaylen and Heather in the room, both partners have someone listening for the protection, fear, or longing underneath the behavior.
You will not leave with inspiration alone. You will practice a specific repair move and leave with language you can use at home.
Gaylen and Heather will not promise a magical marriage in 90 minutes. They will bring their full attention, their training, their hard-earned honesty, and a method designed to help the two of you make a different move when the old cycle shows up.
Relationship and ED coaching are available for individuals and couples. Start at the central coaching page and choose the room you actually need.
See All Coaching OptionsRemote video sessions · Individual and couples options · No long-term package required